Why Do We Do What We Do?

Why Do We Do What We Do?

Entrance to Your Brighter Self

Do you think that you have the power of always doing the right thing all the time? Yet, when you  have a cold or feel exhausted from a day of wrestling with a computer program, or get hit with one of those “challenges” that life hands out so generously, do you slip and loose your cool or make mistakes? It’s bound to happen to anyone sometime. But if we knew when we regularly slipped or were triggered, we could respond better.  If we know we could be better, then how can we do better?

May I go back in time and tell you a story?  In 2001, I met my Life Partner. At the time, I worked for Corporations developing training programs for leaders, professionals, and technical staff and he worked in his own little venue, helping people learn more on the psychology platform. It was easy for us to connect because we both loved helping others motivate themselves and shift to a higher level of being. He gave classes using a tool that I had used over the years, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). I knew this communication and empowering tool was useful, but I really gained an appreciation in seeing this man who practiced it on a regular basis.

Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is the art and science of Human Excellence. It’s used by professionals in business, medicine, and in life to experience a better life. One popular use is “rapport” when  you are meeting people in their “model of the world.” Communicating successfully makes it possible to achieve what you want and need, and meet the expectations of your family and clients. NLP is a fast form of cognitive behavior therapy based on a set of presuppositions. helps you see and understand where another is coming from and how to respond so you are both on the same page. It helps you get things done. NLP also helps us moderate old ideas that hung around with misunderstandings from another time.  Time-line Therapy developed by Tadd James in 1995 helps the unconscious realize, change and reset to living with a happier mindset. Using step-by-step techniques it helps you bring changes unconsciously so you can reframe your experiences and stop being reactive to present situations based on the past. You go beyond the old set point. You establish a new one.

I joined my Life Partner in his venue, and stepped in tune with practicing NLP by training others. It’s one thing to learn something, like reading a book. But it’s another thing to put it into action on a regular basis, and I can tell you that this is what made the difference for me. We are generative beings, always changing. So it’s a tool you can use for yourself for self development and improvement.

Have you heard about the man who got lost on his way to the concert, and saw a maintenance worker sweeping, sweeping, sweeping. “Excuse me, Sir. Can you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?”  Without breaking a beat in his activity, the worker said, “Practice, practice, practice!”

You can learn a tool like NLP, and it takes regular use and practice. The more you find “triggers” that set you off and “manage” them, the better and easier you will “unconsciously respond” when you need. Take the time to practice, practice, practice. If you want some coaching using NLP, Call Cat for an appointment at 503-816-5104.

 

Mind Over Money and Time to Prosper

Mind Over Money

Lightbulb of Thought in Our Mind

What happens in the emotions when it comes to money? Behavioral economists believe when it comes to money the human mind responds irrationally. They are using other information which is crazy to use. Yet, how often do you find yourself acting irrationally when it comes to money?  Why do we do when we know better ideas that would give us a prosperous mind? NOVA (Aired April 26, 2010 on PBS) did an interesting program with interviews from University of Chicago called Mind Over Money.  In one experiment people were asked if they had a choice of receiving $100 in a year or $102 in a year and a day … which would they choose. It’s surprising to see how responses at a Chicago shopping mall turned out!  (Watch the video for the answer.)  (Spoiler… read end of article.)

Lions, Tigers and Bears – Oh My!

Your mindset is created within a set of beliefs. Where do the beliefs come from?  Parents, teachers, experiences and decisions, and a series of experiences in particular context…  are just some places where beliefs are born.  So, how do you undo the damage and set yourself up for more prosperous thinking for mind, body and spirit?  You need to step out of your model and re-define how you are becoming you and make positive changes so you can create and get the experience you truly want.

There’s a competitive nature that makes people get emotional and may push us to make irrational decisions. The “default” of how you set your decisions, even based on your parent’s or other people’s model for healthy living may be on the wrong settings for your happiness. Question: How do we re-set the default?

In Portland, Oregon, Rich Aanrich of Apositiva Institute is offering a workshop February 27, 27, and March 1st, 2015 called “Time to Prosper” where people can explore, re-define, and set new response to live with a mind that can prosper. This workshop includes two free follow-up coaching calls to support students. Follow-up after a workshop is a support mechanism rarely offered by training organizations, and highly beneficial to participants. Coaches are excellent choices, because clients can work on goals knowing they will be held accountable and that there is someone walking “shoulder-to-shoulder” with them to accomplish what they set out to do.

Here are some tips for a stronger mind:

  1. Make the decision that you can be better.
  2. Review habits and notice which ones are serving you.
  3. Notice your emotions in situations.
  4. Create a new vision of you and re-define new beliefs to support that vision.

Adjusting how you use your mind by thinking on a higher level.

Spoiler for Video

Ok, so you haven’t looked at the NOVA / PBS video. Here’s what happened in a Chicago shopping mall.  People were asked if they’d prefer $100 in a year or $102 in a year and a day. Most people said $102 in a year and a day.  When asked if they would want $100 today or $102 in two days, they said they would take the $100 today. Hmmm…  Why would they make this choice when they could get more money and before said they would wait another day after a year? Now, you need to watch the video to learn the answer and get the rest. You can also click on the link to read the manuscript of the show.

Outcome

Are you experiencing what you plan or getting an unexpected outcome? Realize that your unconscious mind is working to bring you the results based on the ingredients of your experiences and responses and what you actively believe and say out loud (i.e. I’m broke, it’s killing me, I’ll never make it). Creating a mind/body that prospers is about more than money; it is a joyful and happy and healthy mindset. Be the highest and best possible you!

Inspiration

Happiness is What Happy Does

Inspiration

It’s almost midnight and my “muse” will be here any minute! Let’s get everything ready. Once she shows up time goes really, really fast!

Pens (lots of colors), BIG paper, computer. Tape for sticking paper on walls. Spicy cinnamon, bubbling boiling water with aroma of vanilla wafting into room, gentle guitar music by Allen Matthews, perpetual piano melodies by Rene Michelle. Ahhh. (smile) My inner essence of being is lighting up. Just a bit of Chocolate (with sea salt and spicy, crunchy stuff, too) and ice cream. Light… need light. Open blinds so light comes in… better yet! Plug in the colored cheery holiday lights (love to keep them up over dreary winter). Mmmmmm. Bring sun inside. Move beyond Portland, Oregon clouds. Feeling HAPPY!

Chimes are blowing outside… this means that she’s close. Let’s see, what else? Hot tea with honey. (chime) Breathe deeply (smelling cinnamon, vanilla, chocolate). Listen … lovely melodies floating through room with layers of careful keys in gentle perpetual pieces. My hand reaches for a pen… it begins to move… a dance begins… meaning mixes melody with wonderful wild whimsy. Happiness is what happy does.

Choosing pen carefully, “muse” merrily meanders across surface, singing softly and gently to meaningful music. Hours pass. Graphic giggles. Emerging from pen comes a snout, eyebrows and a bit of rough scraggly hair, seaweed extending. Hand is tired. Creativity done for now. Miraculous muse musters. Gone. On the wall is a happy reminder of the  muse of a graphic facilitator who leaves a reminder. Be happy.

Mindmaps on display at Apositiva Institute in Portland, Oregon. For info on mindmapping classes coming up click Mindmap with Cat.

 

Visual Recording for Fun, Effectiveness, and Profit

Cat Wilson visually records a group in a Prosper Workshop in Portland, Oregon.

Visual Recording Can Be Used to Enhance Training

How you present your material can change the way people experience your training. Creating an environment where people feel involved will encourage amazing brainstorming and creativity!  How does a Trainer great such synergy? Visual Recording, Mindmapping, or Clustering. What are each of these and how do they work?

Visual Recording and Mindmapping are similar. Above you can see Cat Wilson recording a colorful display of information during a class of adults working on belief change. She follows a process and a flow of information. You may notice that it looks like she’s writing on the wall (a habit she picked up when she was 2 years old). Paper is can be sticky on back or taped in a row, so the stream of thought is followed from the discussion in the room.

Mindmapping Happy with Cat Wilson

Mindmapping is similar to Visual Recording, although it may not necessarily use “models” in a systems manner. Here you see Cat giving a class on Mindmapping vs. List-making. Typically meeting members used black pens on vertical sheets of white chart paper and make long lists for gathering meeting data. Mindmapping utilizes horizontal papers and 3+ colors (black is used for outlining or organizing afterwards).  A general idea starts  in the middle and lines branch out like a “cell” or “tree” figure. Mindmapping uses lots of pictures and colorful images and is great for solving problems, creating a book outline, and apparently Boeing uses it to build airplanes.

Clusters are groupings of words added as a group comes up with ideas. Here you see where a group added words representing values.

Cluster on Values by Cat Wilson

Clustering captures ideas as they are flowing in a team, group, or meeting. Imagine that you are in a room with several participants and wanting them all to bring their skills and abilities to the table. You ask them to come up with several ideas, the come up to the wall and share them by writing them down with several colors. The colors stimulate the right side of the brain and imagination, so that the energy and stimulation in the meeting keeps the air highly active.

Who could benefit from using these three devices? Creatives, Writers, Trainers, Doctors, Professionals, Moms, Kids, Teachers, and I’m not sure about Football players, but I think they already use some sort of visual play explanation which gives them a sense of active movement, too.

If you want a demonstration or more information on Visual Recording, Mindmapping, or Clustering, contact Cat Wilson in Portland, Oregon. After about 20 years, she has a wide collection and a fun spirit that will open your sense to creating a higher and better experience in your live. Call 503.816.5104.

10 Tips to Overcome Fear of Speaking

Speak without fear

  1. Speak with enthusiasm!
  2. Use energy. Energy attracts energy (i.e., enthusiasm is energy)
  3. Speak from passion! You can say more in 5 minutes of passion than 30 minutes of knowledge.
  4. Tell your story. Everyone likes stories
  5. Speaking to the smiling faces
  6. Know your subject
  7. Practice, practice, practice
  8. Try to help others
  9. Thing happy thoughts
  10. Use relaxation techniques

Two more tips!

  1. Get a “Coach”
  2. Join a fun, supportive, “Speaking Group”