Why Do We Do What We Do?
Do you think that you have the power of always doing the right thing all the time? Yet, when you have a cold or feel exhausted from a day of wrestling with a computer program, or get hit with one of those “challenges” that life hands out so generously, do you slip and loose your cool or make mistakes? It’s bound to happen to anyone sometime. But if we knew when we regularly slipped or were triggered, we could respond better. If we know we could be better, then how can we do better?
May I go back in time and tell you a story? In 2001, I met my Life Partner. At the time, I worked for Corporations developing training programs for leaders, professionals, and technical staff and he worked in his own little venue, helping people learn more on the psychology platform. It was easy for us to connect because we both loved helping others motivate themselves and shift to a higher level of being. He gave classes using a tool that I had used over the years, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). I knew this communication and empowering tool was useful, but I really gained an appreciation in seeing this man who practiced it on a regular basis.
Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is the art and science of Human Excellence. It’s used by professionals in business, medicine, and in life to experience a better life. One popular use is “rapport” when you are meeting people in their “model of the world.” Communicating successfully makes it possible to achieve what you want and need, and meet the expectations of your family and clients. NLP is a fast form of cognitive behavior therapy based on a set of presuppositions. helps you see and understand where another is coming from and how to respond so you are both on the same page. It helps you get things done. NLP also helps us moderate old ideas that hung around with misunderstandings from another time. Time-line Therapy developed by Tadd James in 1995 helps the unconscious realize, change and reset to living with a happier mindset. Using step-by-step techniques it helps you bring changes unconsciously so you can reframe your experiences and stop being reactive to present situations based on the past. You go beyond the old set point. You establish a new one.
I joined my Life Partner in his venue, and stepped in tune with practicing NLP by training others. It’s one thing to learn something, like reading a book. But it’s another thing to put it into action on a regular basis, and I can tell you that this is what made the difference for me. We are generative beings, always changing. So it’s a tool you can use for yourself for self development and improvement.
Have you heard about the man who got lost on his way to the concert, and saw a maintenance worker sweeping, sweeping, sweeping. “Excuse me, Sir. Can you tell me how to get to Carnegie Hall?” Without breaking a beat in his activity, the worker said, “Practice, practice, practice!”
You can learn a tool like NLP, and it takes regular use and practice. The more you find “triggers” that set you off and “manage” them, the better and easier you will “unconsciously respond” when you need. Take the time to practice, practice, practice. If you want some coaching using NLP, Call Cat for an appointment at 503-816-5104.